Every week @tuckermax@charliehoehn and @nilsAparker sit down with me to help with my problems meeting and dating women. I am a pale ginger from Ohio who just moved to Austin.
Tucker and Nils break down my mini-dates. They give me much needed fashion advice (I made big mistakes here), feedback on my first date / meeting conversations, and more ways to reframe my dating mindset and goals so that I have more fun and better results.
Highlights:
-How to tell when a girl is looking to hookup that night
-Why Tucker’s wife got mad at Tucker about me
-Wearing simple, plain, “boring” clothes is more attractive than trying too hard with fashion
-Conversation is a dance, not a quiz
-Why Tucker blew up in Episode 7
-Internalizing positive feedback and success, even small wins, is critical to building confidence
@ 1:00 – Speed dating event
@ 4:00 – Fun chick at speed dating
@ 15:30 – They tear down the clothes I wore at speed dating
@ 20:00 – Feedback from Veronica (Tucker’s wife) on my clothes
@ 27:00 – Tucker’s fashion advice: Just look normal, fall in the middle, simple & plain.
@ 35:30 – “You’re a good dude and women will like you but you are handicapping yourself.”
@ 36:00 – Great match at speed dating
@ 50:00 – On conversations: “There are no right or wrong answers. A conversation is not a quiz.” – Nils
@ 49:00 – Beating myself up and cursing under my breath
@ 52:30 – Why Tucker got mad last episode
@ 59:00 – Binary (pass/fail) VS Continuum
@ 1:06:45 – Tucker had to talk to his therapist about me
@ 1:09:00 – Why they are doing this podcast and writing Mate
@ 1:11:00 – Thinking better of yourself after successes. Internalizing success and positive feedback
The Mating Grounds - 1: Helping Joe